Conflicts can repeat themselves in romantic, family, professional or social relationships. They can give the feeling of always finding the same positions despite the will to act differently.
In my psychoanalysis consultations in Lyon, in-office or via teleconsultation, the work consists of exploring what repeats itself and what these situations bring into play for the subject.
Why do conflicts repeat themselves and how can we break out of these patterns?
Similar reproaches, misunderstandings, arguments or the feeling of not being heard can recur from one relationship to another.
Repetition does not necessarily mean that one is responsible for it. It can, however, invite us to question our way of entering into relationships, our expectations, our fears and our desires.
Certain past experiences can sometimes give a particular resonance to present situations, without mechanically determining them.
When the same scenario recurs in different relationships, simply trying to resolve the latest episode is not always enough.
It can be useful to explore what repeats itself in expectations, relational choices, reactions or ways of communicating.
A talking therapy can help understand this repetition and gradually envision a different way of entering into relationships.
Why is it so difficult with my family?
Relationships with parents or siblings can remain difficult long after childhood. Reproaches, misunderstandings, need for recognition, anger or difficulty setting boundaries can continue to weigh on us in adulthood.
A current family relationship can also take on a particular resonance when it reactivates expectations, wounds or positions built up over time. This does not mean that the past automatically explains present conflicts.
Psychoanalysis can help explore what is at play in this relationship, the place each person occupies and what these exchanges bring up for the person today.
Why is it sometimes so difficult to express what I feel?
Setting a boundary, expressing a disagreement or saying what one feels can be difficult out of fear of disappointing, being rejected, hurting the other or losing the relationship.
It is not necessary to immediately seek an older origin. The consultation allows us to examine what makes speaking difficult today and any links that appear with the subject's history.
Why are my reactions to conflicts or disagreements sometimes so intense?
A remark, a criticism or a distance can sometimes provoke a particularly intense anger or anxiety.
The present situation can take on a particular resonance in light of one's singular history, without the past being sufficient to explain the reaction.
Psychoanalysis seeks to understand the articulation between the current situation and what it mobilises for the subject.
Some people systematically avoid confrontations while others react immediately with great intensity.
These reactions may be linked to the way conflicts were previously experienced.
Understanding why a disagreement is so difficult to bear can allow one to no longer be entirely determined by fear, anger or avoidance.
A disagreement can sometimes be experienced as much more than a difference of opinion: as a rejection, a humiliation, a betrayal or the threat of losing the relationship.
The intensity of this reaction may have a history.
Exploring what conflict personally represents allows for a better understanding of why certain situations are much more painful than others.
How can I understand what lies behind my conflicts with others?
A conflict can lead to questioning one's relationship to the other, to recognition, to trust, to dependence or to separation.
Current situations can be connected to the thoughts, emotions, memories and associations they bring to the surface.
I offer psychoanalysis consultations in Lyon, in-office and via teleconsultation.
A first meeting allows us to get acquainted, to clarify your request and to see whether a psychoanalytic approach corresponds to your situation and expectations.
Family, couple or workplace conflicts : consulting a psychoanalyst in Lyon or via teleconsultation